Sunday, July 29, 2007

Bridge the gap....


Life's best lessons can be learnt only by experience. Sometimes, fate puts a hex on us making us to walk through the toughest paths of life. A seperated friend who means a lot to us can make his/her absence felt very much. Reminds us about the unwarranted quarrels, fugacious anger and of course all joyous moments spent together. The worth of that relationship can only be realized when we start missing each other. According to me, intimacy is directly proportional to quarrels. The more intimate you are, the more you quarrel. Not sure how many of you will agree with this, but this is my perception. Sometimes, time gives us the best possible solution in case of a break in relationship. It is always good to sit together, talk and settle conclusively in case of a conflict, but still... a separation could do wonders. Try giving it a break! We are the masters of the untold word and slaves of the spoken word. Don't let your emotions take over your senses, which would aggravate the problems.

We always wish we could rewind the past, apply a few changes in it and make things happen the way we want. But unfortunately, that's not life! Its important not to get disheartened in case if a misunderstanding occurs and rather find out ways to resolve it. Time is the best medicine and give sufficient time to each other to start the thinking process. Analyzing one's faults would never happen initially, as the brain would've been clouded by anger. Take the much needed break and allow things to settle down. Refresh your thoughts and confess to each other. This can always help in maintaining a healthy relationship. A strain in the relationship is very sensitive and should be handled with utmost care. Treating it gently can remove it treating it heavily can cause even more strain. A truly understanding friendship will resume after a hibernation period.

I am trying to emphasize the fact that, friendship involves different individuals no matter how intimate you are. Respect each other's emotions. Every one has their own likes and dislikes. Don't try to impose your ideas and thoughts on them. Most importantly, put a check on your possessiveness. I wouldn't say that possessiveness shouldn't be there, but it shouldn't bother them(Well, I am planning to post a separate article on it)

Learning from mistakes is always good and learning from others' mistakes is much better. But, try to learn somehow before life whips you and gives you the painful experience, just as it did to me.

Happy friendship day...!

20 comments:

Anonymous said...

dei nenja uruga vachitada...m very lucky 2 have a fren like u who gives this much importance to friendship...

Nilofer Anbarasu said...

excellent post......the interesting fact is u have published a very apt post on the friendship day......Happy friendship day dude....

narayanan said...

Machan....really good post...
nailed down the truth....correlates with personal life.. ofcourse eveyones life :P .. Well said..hats off..

narayanan said...

u can try to publish this in some magazine... will win a lot of appreciation... syncronizes exactly with everday situtaion... cheers...keep posting

Vignesh Page said...

Friendship stand strong ...Like ours..Happy Friendship day..!!!

quartyc said...

happy frienship day da.. matchi.. padishtae toongitaen da.. mannitchuko da ;-)

quartyc said...

btw the logo.. pic gowri focsd..is cool da..

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Anonymous said...

unakula ipadi oru thirimai iruka..its gud to c that u have written abt friends.....ithu veraikum ne eluthina post va vida ithu romba super ah iruku...good job..keep it up..keep posting....

Femin Shibu said...
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Femin Shibu said...

I really impressed the following lines ...
"Learning from mistakes is always good and learning from others' mistakes is much better. But, try to learn somehow before life whips you and gives you the painful experience, just as it did to me."

but, tell me what mistake you did !!!!!! ??????
Any way good stuff... keep it up...

Prez said...

Life is a collection of experience,
the words emphazise the reflection of reality , though ppl tend to passthrough the roads of life as highway.. yet an another milestone to look at..

keep going,
`PREM

Rakul005 said...

There is so much truth in your page dhaa. Yet no matter how hard you try to remind yourself of such lessons, u may fail to execute them till the teacher(experience) shows you the right way to handle life.Which all comes back to the very first sentence in the end,
"Life's best lessons can be learnt only by experience".

On my opinion,
Giving time to a mishap to heal is easy deal, but giving time to a MISUNDERSTANDING ........... well that cud be a challenge. Anyway Lets face life... ;-) cool blog Dhaa...

Sri Pradha said...

its soo cool dhaa... nice tat thers so much to read bout frendship...

i personally guess (sumone) frm our family shud read this blog ;)

but seriously awesome dhaa

keep writing and rockin!!!!

Sri Pradha said...

and bout possessiveness ...
yu're right!! the more ure possessive on someone it leads u to expect more frm them ... but if we're not ful filld wit those expectations we'r pushed into more o depression!

its not wrong to b possessive on ppl...but not more than sum limit which wont get us more depressed!

its safe to stay away frm too much of possessiveness...


please do write a bolg on it!

Keep rokin...! :)

Unknown said...

I like this code...
“Friendship involves different individuals no matter how intimate you are. Respect each other's emotions. Every one has their own likes and dislikes. Don't try to impose your ideas and thoughts on them.”

If you are very close to any one, surly he/she is a friend and you have possessiveness with him/her. It is true... I never oppose this topic

Good one, Keep it up…

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Anonymous said...

ya ...great ..all are very true ..all ppl should hav crossed these kind situations..and sure ur wrds will help us to understand others and hw to mov with ppl
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abi

Anonymous said...

Penned Down more Sir!! you have it in you :D

Rathna said...

Hey man,
I accept you in this.. I have the same kind of experience too...